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During the semester college students are caught up in the hectic academic routine and campus life. The burden of assignments, tests, and papers can make them feel like a cheap writer with countless tasks. But December signals that they will soon get some well-deserved relaxation as winter break approaches. Students return home where they can escape from the pressures of school for a few weeks.
For parents, it can be incredible to have their kids home again! But the return is sometimes troublesome for both students and their parents. There is noise, laundry, and often times a mess. Having college students return home can turn what was once a nice, quiet routine into a fight over using the car or an empty fridge. Also, bickering between siblings can come back with full force.
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The most significant change is the freedom that comes from living away from home. This freedom promotes a healthy and necessary independence, a desire which remains even when the students return home. Arguments between parents and their college students can arise when this new independence collides with parents’ expectations (which often recall the time before college). Parents may try to enforce old rules such as curfews or strict sleep times, or try to manage their child’s time without realizing that their role in their child’s life has changed. When students return from college, even on these short breaks, it is important to realize they have transitioned from a teenager to a young adult. Parents need to understand this in order to avoid conflict with their kids over the break.
Students also need to realize how their new independence may cause trouble at home, and to talk to your parents about your new habits and routines instead of just arguing with them.
Here are a few things you can discuss with your parents ahead of time to make sure your break is the relaxing time you hoped it would be:
It’s well-known that college students have crazy sleep schedules, and it can be hard to switch back to a more normal schedule for just a few weeks over the break. Explain to your parents that you are not being lazy when you sleep past noon, but that you are used to having afternoon classes and getting work done at night. If you want them to respect your schedule, you need to be sure to be respectful as well. When you do wake up be sure to spend time with your family who may feel like they are missing out on spending time with you when you sleep so late. If you continue to stay up late make sure that you do not make a lot of noise and disrupt your parents who will likely go to bed much earlier.
If you have your own plans for the break, such as seeing old friends from high school or going to visit a college friend in their home town, make sure that you tell your parents ahead of time. If you don’t your plans may clash, and that could lead to an argument about why you don’t seem to want to spend time with them. They may have plans to visit family or to do something with you, and you can avoid a lot of stress if you coordinate, allowing them to spend time with you and you to do what you had planned.
If your goal is to have a more relaxed break, and you don’t have any plans but to sit at home and catch up on TV or play a new video game, make sure to remember your parents don’t see you during the semester. While this is your time to relax, it’s their time to catch up and spend time with you. Try scheduling some time specifically to spend with them, even if it is just a few meals or going holiday shopping together. A bit of time with your parents won’t cut into your relaxation too much, and it will mean a lot to them.
Remember, this is your parents’ chance to catch up and hear about how school is going for you. Even though school is probably the very last thing you want to talk about, especially right after exams, don’t lose your patience when they start asking a lot of questions. If you really need a mental break, let them know you don’t want to answer all their questions right away, but in a few days or a week you’ll let them know how your classes went this semester, what you and your friends have been up to, etc.
Your parents may have made some changes to your room while you were gone. Whether this was just trying to clean it up a bit or making it into that office or home gym they always wanted, remember they are not trying to make you feel unwelcome. If you are really uncomfortable with them making any changes be sure to talk about this beforehand so that you are all on the same page. Your old room can be a nice comfort, especially when you are just coming home for a few weeks, and communication with your parents can help avoid any unwanted surprises.
You may think you are exempt from rules and chores now that you live away at college, but your parents may not think so. To avoid any more stress, talk to them ahead of time about realistic expectations for when you visit. Here are a few examples:
· You may be used to staying out late at college, but your parents likely remember when you had a curfew. Instead of going back to that, agree to let your parents know how late you plan to be out and when you are heading home so that you can enjoy yourself and they won’t worry.
· Agree on some sort of early notice for borrowing the car. You may want it to go visit old friends but your parents may need it to get to work or run errands. Be flexible, you may need to agree to drive younger siblings somewhere in exchange for time with the car.
· Ask your parents not to bother you about how messy your room may get while you are home, but agree to clean things up before you head back to college.
· You are probably tired of doing your own laundry, but don’t just assume your parents will do it while you are home. Ask your parents if you can throw your stuff in with the rest of the load, and offer to help once or twice.
· Agree on scheduled family time, like a set number of meals a week you will eat with your family. Agree with your parents on a number, but keep it flexible so you can still spend time on your own or with friends.
Sensible expectations, communication, and compromise will help you avoid any conflict with your parents over the break and ensure that you can get the relaxation you need while your parents get the family time they want.
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