Surrounded by judgement and labeling others, through an inspirational and powerful article, Griz expresses his acceptance of being gay and reminds others how it’s cool to be gay.
In a world so quick to judge and shame, Grant Kwiecinski expresses the strength and comfortability with being who you are. Grant Kwiecinski, most know him by his DJ name, Griz. Griz, born and raised in the metro Detroit area, explains to his community and young teens, through a Huffington Post, who struggle with similar insecurities he did, that it is okay to be gay. A son, a friend, a DJ, an inspiration all while being confident in saying “it’s totally cool to be gay” and HE’S RIGHT.
Griz explains how he grew up questioning a lot about himself. “Am I gay?” “Maybe this is just a phase?” “What’s wrong with me?” Simply, the answer was with him all along. It was the labels, the judgement, the difference against others, and the discouragement within himself that sent him through depression. Through his experiences in life he explains how the sun will still shine through the sadness and acceptance will win.
As mentioned in the article, Griz addresses his struggles growing up with the question whether or not he was gay. He explains many nights he was depressed, stressed, and at a constant battle with emotions. Growing up with a close family and a brother as his best friend, it didn’t help when his parents divorced at age eleven. Griz expresses how that the divorce made him even closer to his friends and brother. Although he was surrounded by many wonderful people, he still felt like an outcast trying to fit in. Beginning early stages of middle school leading into high school, he thought pretending to be something he wasn’t was okay but soon realized it would only hurt him. He talks about how he was into the partying, drugs, alcohol, and music. However, he states how difficult it was to avoid something so important to him.
“The most difficult thing about keeping secrets that no one knows, is that they drive you crazy and make you think, feel, and do crazy, sometimes harmful, shit….I hated the fact that I was gay. I resented myself for it. I would barter to the higher power to make me straight. When things got really bad I ask my mom to take me to see a psychiatrist (who I constantly lied to about my sexuality) because I wanted to get a magic pill that would help me feel okay.”
Griz made it a purpose to deliver a powerful, positive message as LGBT Pride Month approached us. LGBT Pride Month occurs every year during the month of June. Coming from a man who had low moments in his life who learned to live through who he was, Griz has proven that the first step to love is accepting who you are. In his article, Griz highlights the moment of his acceptance for who he was and for how others viewed him. Attending Michigan State University, through friends in similar situations and through music, he was able to acknowledge the acceptance that he was gay. To take the leap of faith of questionable paths and do what’s best for you. He states:
“I had to tell myself, “Grant, you’re just gonna be who you are. You’re a super rad dude and people are gonna love you either way. If they don’t then they weren’t actually your friends in the first place. This is that leap of faith moment. You just have to go for it. I was surprised how supportive my family and friends were in my coming out and it gave and still gives me hope.”
Inspiring isn’t a strong enough word to explain the emotion and movement, Grant Kwiecinski, did for many living or not living with the same actions. As a leader himself, the positivity the DJ brings into this world is remarkable. His message “Show Love, Spread Love” lives so powerful through his actions and every day message. To live in such a cruel world, do not let the diversity of others reflect your self-love. As Griz said, “Instead of giving into fear and sadness, we need to shine. Shine so brightly that it inspires your community to do the same.” It’s now 2017 and as the influence himself said, “it’s totally cool to be gay.”