Breadcrumbing has been popping up all over social media lately, and it’s way worse than ghosting.
Dating as a Millennial just got a bit more interesting. A new trend, “breadcrumbing,” has suddenly emerged and is quickly replacing ghosting.
But what exactly is breadcrumbing?
It’s when someone responds just enough to make you think that they’re still interested, and gives you enough attention that you believe there is still some hope.
— Shehzrae Fawad (@Shehzrae) February 3, 2017
A breadcrumber will lead you on with an absent-minded messages or by liking your Instagram posts but will never actually make solid plans with you. The brief flirtation ends as the breadcrumber randomly disappears. They’ll eventually resurface ten days or a month later, and the vicious cycle resumes.
These “crumbs” are just enough to remind you that the person is alive and keep you interested.
Breadcrumbing is horrible. It’s much worse than ghosting, because as hurtful as ghosting is, you at least get a clear idea that the person isn’t interested, and you can just move on. With breadcrumbing, you never completely know where you stand.
Dating takes a lot of effort. So breadcrumbing is just a big waste of someone’s time and leaves them feeling terrible about themselves.
Honestly, its confusing and disrespectful to lead someone on like that while holding them back from meeting other people who won’t play games with them.
I suggest just being honest with someone if you no longer want to see them. It might be hurtful in the beginning, but its the cleanest and most respectful way.
If you’re having trouble ending it with someone, check out this Bustle article for tips on how to compassionately break up with them.